Good Ending for 2010. Awesome start to 2011

My first post for 2011.

As usual, this blog owner likes to neglect her blog. Until there is something worth blogging about. Now there is something 

About a friend who turned into my boyfriend.

I never realised how and when it happened actually. The most important thing is that it did happen. Ben happened 

I can only pinpoint that we were and are always close. I mean, I call him up whenever I have issues. He tells me things too. He’s the only guy besides my exes/brothers/father who has ever heard me cry; even if it’s only over the phone. It happened like 2 or 3 months back when he broke up with his then-girlfriend. She had lots of admirers and somehow one of her admirers added me on Facebook. I didn’t know about that when I approved his friend request. This guy started commenting on my wall and sending me DMs. I was surprised when he told me about Ben’s cheating ways but I told him that Ben is a good friend of mine and I refuse to listen to only one side of the story.

When the guy was being funnier than usual, I decided to delete him from my friends’ list. This happened over one weekend.

Next thing I know, a friend of me and Ben’s called. She said that guy posted my details (phone number, where I worked – the building only and my full name). I was shocked. He used my details taken from my Facebook account. I was angry and upset. I immediately called Ben and told him everything. He told me the real story about what happened between him and the ex. I thought it ended there because no one, I mean no insane guys called me after my details were posted online.

That Sunday, I took a nap. Then suddenly, an unknown number kept calling me non-stop. I texted that person asking who but no reply. Then finally I answered. It was the ex’s aunty who called to scold me for no reason. Apparently I somehow managed to ruin the girl’s life. I have no idea what stories were made up about me and the aunty was badly misinformed about the WHOLE situation. She demanded me to tell the truth and all. But I couldn’t because I knew nothing about nothing. Finally I just hang up the phone but the aunty kept on messaging me with threats of my sins in the afterlife. Really, I know how to behave properly ok….I have good parents who taught me well about my religion, good values and good morals.

I called Ben again. Yes, I call him for every major issue. I just realized this fact about 2 days ago.
I was sobbing till I couldn’t breathe. It was that bad. I hate people who point fingers at me. I didn’t even do anything wrong. He calmed me down and he kept saying sorry for putting me into that situation unwillingly. I didn’t blame him for it anyway because he wasn’t the one who said things about me. Then, we texted each other. This is how it REALLY started.

We met each other more during lunch hours. Our offices are within walking distance from each other. So we would have lunch sometimes and other times, I ate with the girls or just by myself. We began to text almost every minute. He asked me out twice over FB. I thought it was just for fun; and I think is was. But we didn’t manage to go out.

The next lunch, he paid. That’s the moment I began to notice something different about him. Yeah, I found him nice when we were still friends. Yeah, I was abit jealous when he had the ex. Yeah; I was pissed when the ex treated him badly. But I thought the feelings were of the friendly nature. I was so wrong…..

That weekend, he was away. Back to his hometown, Ipoh. When he was on his way there, I just called to ask if he reached safely. Yes, I was worried but I didn’t realise at that time. He was still on the road and he said of course he would text me when he reached. We continued to text; but not as often when he was around. I understood that he was with family and I didn’t think much of it. But I have to admit that I miss his smses. We just continued to text like mad. He told me things about feelings, past relationships and stuff. I did the same. It just grew from there. From close friends.

Then if not mistaken, we were talking about relationships and what about us. Then it happened. From a joke of he asking if wanna give it a try (something like that - I can’t really remember for certain) but next thing, we started to call each other mushy names and planning our first date for the next weekend. This was just before Christmas 2010. We had lunch together before that and it was funny because our friends saw us before and they thought we were already a couple when in reality, we weren’t. We seriously were just close friends.

The first date was at The Curve. Lunch and movie. Both were very giggly and excited. Thanks B for a great day. For the first time on a date, I wasn’t super-nervous or awkward. I just felt SAFE and relaxed whenever he’s around. I don’t have to ponder on silly matters like whether I look like an idiot in this or that. He’s really talkative so that made it easier because I tend to keep quite sometimes. Overall, he’s my opposite when I’m not in my crazy and bouncy moods. The next date was on a Monday. He was on leave and I took half day. Went to Midvalley for lunch and just spending time together.

A friend of ours, JJ was around the mall so we called him up for drinks. That’s the first time anyone saw us as a couple. As in holding hands, calling each other by nicknames and etc. He even re-introduced me as his girlfriend. JJ was like “yeah, I knew it for weeks” but we were barely 2 weeks or so. The rest is pretty much the same like any other relationships.

The most important for me is he knows what ACTUALLY happened between me and the infamous EX of mine. Not only he knows the usual story; he knows the REAL truth of why I’m so messed up in life due the EX. No one knows the truth except for my immediate family and Aizura. So, I know he’s special because I don’t open myself out for anyone. I’m open to friends but certain parts of me are only meant for my loved ones. And he’s now included in that short list 

I pray that everything goes well. We made a promise to each other. To always work on our relationship no matter what happens. I truly trust him and he does the same towards me.

My 2010 ended with a nice gift from GOD. A close friend turned into my boyfriend.
My 2011 began with a friendship grew stronger. It blossomed into a relationship.

We’ll see how it goes. I believe that our friendship is the strong basis for our relationship. That isn’t something we get and able to find too often in life.

I love you, Benny. From your Sha-Sha.